around economics. guys' marriageable. that doesn't make him marriageable. professional athletes would be the best husbands in the world because they have the economic piece, but it's the culture that many of them come from that doesn't lead to that. marriage has to be defined to be a much broader word that includes the kinds of things we are talking about, skills, relationship skills, communication skills, parenting skills, that what marriage is about, not the ability to just bring a check. as long as we talk about it in that context, it will tell a guy who is unemployed or underemployed, you have no role here. part of my strategy is, you have to talk about what good fathers do. namely three things. they provide, nurture and guide, provide, nurture and guide.